Eight guides, written for an adult
No moral argument and no miracle claims. Start wherever the description matches what is actually on your mind.
What 'Compulsive Porn Use' Actually Means — And What It Does Not
What compulsive sexual behaviour disorder actually is, why 'porn addiction' is not a diagnosis, and which questions are worth asking instead of how much is too much.
Read the guide →Where The Time Actually Goes: A Three-Day Count
How much time do I spend on porn? The cheapest measurement in this subject, how to count it honestly over three days, and the hours almost everyone leaves out of their estimate.
Read the guide →Triggers And The Habit Loop: Why Deciding To Stop Does Not Work
Why you cannot stop watching porn when you decide to: how an intact habit loop beats a sincere decision, how to find your real triggers, and the three places the loop breaks.
Read the guide →Digital Boundaries That Survive A Bad Day
Digital boundaries that reduce porn use and actually survive a bad day — ranked by what they cost you against what they prevent, plus the ones that predictably collapse.
Read the guide →Porn And Your Relationship: How To Have The Conversation
What partners actually react to, how to open the conversation without it becoming a trial, and what to expect from the first one.
Read the guide →Shame, Stigma, And Why They Make It Worse
Why you feel so guilty after watching porn, why self-disgust feeds the behaviour it was meant to stop, what the abstinence-violation effect is, and what to do instead.
Read the guide →Planning A Reset That Holds: Four Weeks, Designed For The Bad Evening
A plan to reduce porn use over four weeks, built backwards from the bad evening: environment first, alternatives second, a written slip response, and four measures instead of a streak.
Read the guide →When To See A Professional, And What Actually Happens
Should you see a therapist about porn use? The signals that mean a clinician is the right next step, who does what, what a first appointment is really like, and what to ask first.
Read the guide →The Porn Use Reset & Recovery Guide
Twelve pages: how the loop actually works, the boundaries that hold, a trigger map you fill in yourself, a four-week plan designed for the day you feel terrible, and the conversation script if a relationship is involved.